The obsession over female virginity traces its way back to the days where women were considered the property of men - and the heirs produced by a woman were the key reason of having her around. It was of critical importance that a man could guarantee that any child that came from the woman was "his" so that his land and wealth only went to his own offspring. This is why the woman had to be a virgin - so there was NO chance of her already having another child inside her when she married the man.
Luckily for men (I say this tongue in cheek), there was sort of a way to "prove" that a girl was a virgin. The way a man impregnates a woman is for him to put his male sex organ into her. The opening into which he puts his sex organ is protected from dust and dirt and such during her younger years by a thin membrane - a "hymen". This is sort of like your eyelid, it's a thin layer of skin that mostly closes off her opening to keep it clean. The very first time the man enters her, he breaks away this layer of skin. When it rips, it often hurts, and it also bleeds. So that blood from the ripped hymen is what a man would look for as "proof" that nobody else had entered her before he had.
Unfortunately for possessive guys, this is not a foolproof method. A hymen is just a piece of skin. It can easily break at other times too! Hymen are known to break from heavy exercise, from horseback riding, from bike riding, from many other activities. Tampons can rip them. A hymen is not a magical substance. It's just a piece of skin, and it can tear and rip. In some girls, the hymen is so thin that it wouldn't even bleed enough to be shown, even if it was there during the "first time".
There's no "proof" of virginity with a guy. Their organ is just the way it is. It can go in and out of a woman without any difference being shown.
In modern day society, virginity does not matter as a physical act. With birth control, it is very easy to have intercourse without worrying about having "heirs". And as we know, sperm are very mobile and a girl can easily get pregnant even if she is not actually entered. So NOT having been entered is no guarantee that she is not pregnant. What most people concern themselves with is the honesty of the FEELINGS between two individuals. You might have had sex in the past - but it could have been just casual, for fun. If the way you FEEL with each other is incredibly special - if that FEELING is one that you have never felt before, then that is what should be celebrated. It is that emotional contact, that feeling of oneness, that is the true sign of a special breakthrough that only you two share.
From: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/whatis/virginity.asp
Virginity
Top 100 Things that Attrack Women to Men
1. Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.
2. A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Women will trust you with themselves.
3. Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.
4. Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which will seduce most women.
5. Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy. Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you’re half way there. Read how to make a girl smile.
6. Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will be a big part of your evening.
7. Being wealthy.Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even excitement. This is very attractive to women whom crave all these feelings.
8. Being playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction in women.
9. Being touchy. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people whom refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with a girl.
10. Bravery. Being brave, alert in emergency situations is very attractive and indicates that you will be able to protect her from danger.
11. Being excited about life. The energy that people emit when they are excited about living is contagious and very attractive.
12. Being unavailable. People want what they can’t get. Being hard ( but not impossible! ) to get is attractive.
13. A cocky smile is attractive. Cocky smiles, demonstrated in movies such as James Bond and Top Gun triggers feelings of confidence and dominance which is extremely arousing. Read up on how to pick up girls for more information.
14. Genuine smiles in general are attractive. As long as they are a reaction to something that occurred and not because you are being polite or awkward.
15. Being concentrated on a task is attractive to women. If a woman can watch you while you are completely involved in a task, then she is likely to be attracted to you. Examples of this can be her watching you paint, play an instrument, anything you do well that requires full absolute concentration on your part.
16. Playing an instrument is attractive to women. Wonder why the rock stars get the girls… there are many reasons but those whom play music are automatically ranked more attractive than those who don’t.
17. Being famous.If you’re famous, then by definition a lot of people know you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being important is very attractive to women.
18. Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.
19. Being well dressed. Wearing nice clothes demonstrate social status; accentuate your physical features and shows that you take care of yourself.
20. Unique accessories that match our personality. In our society, accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, confidence and will attract women. “What’s that necklace you are wearing”, says the girl at the bar. That is one of the dating tips for how to attract women.
21. Shoes that are in style. The first thing that most girls notice in guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans from the 80’s… but if you’re wearing brand new shoes that are in style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don’t have the shoes… get them.
22. Well fitting shirts. Baggy shirts are out! Shirts should complement your body and show off your features. Now I’m not talking about spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is attractive to women.
23. A deep, commanding voice. Your voice says a lot about you, literally. The next time you strike up a chat with a woman, don’t sound squeaky.
24. Body posture. Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you are a healthy mate and is very attractive to women. Lean back.
25. Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don’t go too far and stink. That’s repelling.
26. Some light, musky cologne. These smells will mimic the natural smell that males produce and used lightly, will arouse some females.
27. Leadership. Being a leader is very attractive to women, it demonstrates social status and importance. Make decisions, lead the pack.
28. Being dominant. Women are naturally submissive, and men should be naturally dominant. Unfortunately with all our yoga classes and hormonal milk, this has changed in the past century.
29. Being dangerous. Danger is hot, exciting, energising and can be very addictive. Women love the bad boy.
30. Being intelligent. Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career is very attractive.
31. Being good with animals. Being good with living things indicates that you will be a good mate, capable of protecting and caring for any offspring you could potentially have. This is very attractive.
32. Being good with kids. Same as above.
33. Being genuinely interested in her. People love people whom are interested in them. If you genuinely want to know what makes her tick, this will be attractive.
34. Being the best, in a group of men. If you are the best out of the competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive to women.
35. Being disciplined. People want to be surrounded by competent individuals. If you are able to control yourself when she can’t, she will see you as having a lot of willpower. This demonstrates that you are in control of your life.
36. Not taking life too seriously. Having the gift to be able to laugh at life and embrace it as an enjoyable experience. You don’t have to think about marriage every time you talk to a girl.
37. Being positive. Positive people are attractive. If you can show her the sunny side of things, she will thank you for it.
38. Being a little selfish. Being slightly selfish indicates that you care a lot about yourself and your well being. This relates to confidence and importance which are attractive. Don’t be a martyr.
39. Being generous. The complete opposite of being selfish, being generous can be attractive as well because it demonstrates that you are not needy and that you are wealthy. Note! Being generous does NOT mean you should buy things for people so they like you… this is not attractive. A good example of being generous would be, if you’re with friends, you could purchase the pitcher of drinks. This subconsciously communicates that you are in charge, dominant and wealthy.
40. Spontaneity. Very attractive, alludes to excitement.
41. Good hair. Having nice, healthy and well groomed hair shows that you take care of yourself.
42. Trimmed nails. Women notice, if you take care of yourself, she’ll appreciate it.
43. A slight tan. These days, a tan indicates that you wealthy and physically healthy.
44. Relaxed attitude. Being relaxed shows a lot of confidence.
45. Being driven. If you know what you want in life, and you’re pursuing it, this is attractive.
46. Nice teeth. It is very important to have nice teeth, women think about it every time they consider kissing you.
47. Having nice possessions, such as a car, house or a boat. These indicate wealth, excitement and power, all of which are attractive.
48. A sense of adventure. If you’re curious about life, and are willing to take risks. You can lure her into your world and she’ll be happy to follow you past her limits.
49. Honesty. Being able to speak the truth is difficult and shows that you have accepted who you are as a person. It also shows that you don’t care what others think, which is very attractive.
50. Whispering in her ear. The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
51. Being busy. If you are busy, then you are important, independent and have a life.
52. Being a man. Women love men who do manly things, stop doing yoga and go play a sport, hit the gym and get dirty.
53. Having a nice butt. A sexy fitness indicator, attainable through the gym.
54. Pre-selection. If other women want you, then there must be a reason. Having many people want you makes you attractive. You aren’t a guy who has time to look at personals.
55. Being genuine. Say what you mean and do what you say. This is hard, but attractive.
56. Physically picking her up. Ever heard of sweeping her off her feet? This is it.
57. Touching her hair. There is something about having your hair touched that is relaxing and arousing at the same time.
58. A nice face. Women love men with an attractive face. That’s what she’ll be kissing and you better believe it makes a difference.
59. Originality. Women crave excitement, originality provides that. Seduction is never the same and being original is an essential part of it.
60. Experience. Maturity can be very arousing; if you know what you’re doing she’ll appreciate it and you’ll get laid more often.
61. Speaking to her true self. If you can see past the walls that most people put and truly speak to the real person inside of them, you’ll be one of the few that understands them. This makes you very important.
62. Independence. People don’t like neediness, being independent shows that you are self sufficient and can take care of yourself.
63. Teasing her. Playfulness, excitement, she loves it.
64. Composure. If you can keep your cool under stressful situations, she’ll notice.
65. Being selective. If you are selective, then it implies that you aren’t needy and are valuable enough to want many people want you.
66. Being challenging. Playing hard to get is as true for women as it is for men. People want what they can’t have, and if they have to work for something, they’ll appreciate it much more.
67. Focus. If you know what you want, and are determined to get it, then that’s attractive.
68. Modesty. No one likes a show-off. Being modest is great, and attractive. There is nothing better than a girl finding out something good about you through a friend.
69. Muscular abs. An indicator of health.
70. Being natural. If you’re genuine about how you feel, without caring what others think, then that’s attractive. You want to know if people can handle the real you.
71. Charismatic. If your spoken words and gestures can warm up a room, she’ll notice and be warmed up as well. If she doesn’t, her matchmaking friend will tell her about you.
72. Sensual. Some people are frigid and cold. Some people are warm and very alert to their senses. If you are in tune with your body, you’ll likely be in tune with hers as well.
73. A man that loves to have fun. Everyone wants to be around a guy who enjoys himself, be that guy.
74. Goes against the rest of society. No one likes a follower. If you have a conviction about something, stick with it. Make up your own mind about things and people will respect you.
75. Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.
76. Persistent. If you go after your goals, other will notice. This is very attractive as it shows will power that not many people have.
77. Being respected. If your entourage respects you, then she will as well.
78. Loyal. People do not want to get hurt, and will avoid you if aren’t loyal. It is better to remain single than to get into a relationship you don’t plan on staying in.
79. Romance. Spicing it up in a relationship is critical and attractive. Don’t always do the same thing because it will get boring really fast.
80. Drama. Ever wonder why women love soap opera’s? It is because they crave drama, gossip, secrets. It is exciting and attractive. If you have an eventful life, people will be attracted to it.
81. The way you move. If you have calm, controlled and relaxed gestures, then you will be seen as someone that is confident.
82. A mysterious grin. There’s something about a grin that arouses curiosity and intrigue.
83. Being extravagant. Sometimes going over the top is good, if you can let yourself go from time to time, people will notice.
84. Loving yourself. If you truly love yourself for who you are, then others will as well.
85. Being a teacher. Have you ever wondered why so many girls have crushes on their teachers? It is because being a teacher is a sign of power and knowledge, be a teacher.
86. Clean, clear skin. Physically, nice skin is a health indicator and women will naturally be attracted to healthy looking skin.
87. Being energetic. Have you ever heard the expression, “he was the life of the party” This is energy, its contagious and most people don’t have enough of it. It is very attractive.
88. Being passionate. Be in the moment and enjoy life every day. It’s not about the destination, but about the journey. You’ll find your true love along the way.
89. Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to her playful teases, you’ll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
90. Attentive to details. It’s the little things that matter, if you notice that she’s done something different with her hair when no one else does, she will appreciate and be attracted to that.
91. Convicted and has strong beliefs. Be opinionated about things. If you ask someone a question about a topic and they have something interested to say about it, that’s attractive. Be opinionated.
92. Being in tune with her. Being in tune with someone is one of the biggest factors in relationships. Have you ever felt chemistry? Have you ever felt like you were on the same wavelength? If you and your partner are similar (and you should!) this will come naturally and will be one of the most attractive traits. The same applies for meeting women during the day or night. If you’re picking up a girl in a club, then high energy is appropriate because your energy will be matching hers. If you arrive with high energy during the day and she is reading in the library, this will clash. Read the article on how to approach girls for more information.
93. Being attentive to details in your life. Are you meticulous? Being attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay attention to the details in her life.
94. Being knowledgeable about various subjects. If you are versatile, then you’ll never be short of conversational topics. Being flexible and able to adapt to all kinds of situations is attractive. Go read some books.
95. Innocence. It’s no fun when you know everything, have tried everything and have been to the edge and back. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There’s always something that you haven’t tried, let her know and invite you to try it with you. Asking for her advice is alright as well.
96. Challenging her. Forcing her to be on her toes, teasing her, is exciting and attractive.
97. Be a planner. If you are always organising events, you are automatically the leader that has a high social status and a lot of energy. This is very attractive; everyone wants to be invited to outings.
98. Being open. Tell her about your life, the real one. Cut the B.S. and you’ll stand out as someone who’s not trying to prove anything to anyone.
99. Being direct. Being direct is very powerful and attractive. People use indirect methods because they want to ‘feel things out’ and not get hurt. Being direct shows that you are confident, bold and not scared of rejection.
100. Be yourself, the good yourself. You shouldn’t try to pretend to be something that you aren’t. You should grow and continually improve, but remain genuine. Don’t hide your faults, everyone has them. The old saying,” be yourself” is very true and is ultimately what will attract the woman of your dreams.
Does it mean that you have to be all these things in order to attract beautiful women into your life? No way! The universe has a weird way of working and you’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with. She’ll love your faults, your weaknesses and your strengths. Have faith, believe in destiny and you shall meet your soul mate. You’ll know it when it happens.
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From: http://heavenjoy82.blog.co.uk/2008/10/03/top-100-things-that-attrack-women-to-men-4814928/
How to Get a Boyfriend in Three Weeks
This is how most of us people got boyfriends in 3 weeks!
STEPS
1. Start a normal conversation and ask him simple questions.
2. After a week or two ask him if he considers you a friend If he says yes you're doing well, if not, sorry!
3. Be flirty! Ask him who he likes! Then if he asks you if you think someone is cute say, "maybe I do, maybe I don't."
4. Make sure you flirt back when he flirts with you!
5. After about two weeks, plan a day somewhere with your friends and him and his friends. But make sure that he doesn't notice that you're trying to set up a date.
6. Don't be shy. Tell him you like him after three weeks and maybe he'll feel the same way.
7. Don't hide your face when he is around guys like a girl who loves herself, her body, and the way she looks that will give him a even greater reason to like you...so be confident!
TIPS
* Flirt with him more after the first two weeks.
* Get a haircut or buy some new clothes.
* Don't feel pressure and act relaxed around him.
* Laugh at his jokes only if they are funny (you don't want to seem desperate!).
* This is also a good time to build up your confidence, but don't get too over confident to ask him out so you won't be let down if he says no!!!
* Be confident in who you are!!
WARNINGS
* If he doesn't even know you exist, make him notice you! But don't over do it! If he takes interest, keep going, if not it just wasnt meant to be.
* Don't get too playful.
* Don't try to be someone else.
* If you think he doesnt like you...you might be right so back off a little
From: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Boyfriend-in-Three-Weeks
How to Get a Boyfriend
STEPS:
1. Know what type of boy you're looking for. Make a list of things that appeal to you, such as intelligence, looks, ambition, sense of humor (if it's for humor always laugh and smile at his jokes- but, if you don't think it's funny don't laugh or he will get the wrong impression), or respect for other people's feelings.
2. Get involved in activities that you enjoy to give yourself the chance to meet new guys. Expand your horizons and your circle of friends,and don't do a sport because your friends are in it or just to meet new guys. Do what you want to do.
3. Introduce yourself. If you don't really know the guy you're focusing on, or if you don't really know that many guys worth calling a boyfriend in general, there are many ways you can get noticed.
4. Get to know him. Sometimes we become enamored with a fantasy that the guy can fit into, more than the real person himself. Know the Difference Between Love, Infatuation and Lust. Make sure your intentions are genuine and show him how you feel. Be part-talker, part-listener. Show your interest, as meeting new people should be exciting, but also remember to refer to your own hobbies. Look for connections!
5. Become a friend, but not immediately. Remember to be yourself. Gradually build up a circle of trust with this boy. It can be risky if you move too quickly. They may begin to think you are too pushy.
6. See if the feeling is mutual. Read the signs. And while you can't force someone to like you, you can encourage him to give you a chance.
7. Show him how you can be an amazing friend. Emphasize your best features. Make the most of what you have, both physically and mentally. Show your character.
8. Ask him out or keep repeating the steps above while he comes around on his own.
9. Boyfriends are nice to have but sometimes it's easier to just wait until love finds you, because if you just continue to search for what you see on the outside, you might just have already passed by the man of your dreams. Even if he isn't extremely attractive. The best things in life take time. Looks, possessions, wealth, and egos are temporary, but personality is forever. Don't go into a relationship trying to change the other person. It won't happen and you're just kidding yourself.( a lot of people do that!)
TIPS:
* Relax and be yourself.
* When you feel the time is right, ask him out, but don't wait too long or someone else might take him! What have you got to lose?
* Before you make the move, make sure you aren't being sexually harassed because guys don't want to date girls if other guys take her as a free-for-all. If you are being harassed you got to end it, tell them to stop and call them perverts, do what ever it takes to get them off before you think about dating
Try and get to the point where you feel like you don't need a boyfriend. Then they'll flock to you. Confidence is the key
* You want to lower his risk that you will reject him
- Make it obvious that you like him. Guys can be a little slow here especially if they have been rejected before.
- Letting him know you are not dating anyone lowers the risk of rejection for the guy. The better guys will be turned off if they feel like you are trying to date everyone.
- Resolve old hurts and disappointments. Make sure you're ready for a new relationship by setting aside any grievances about old boyfriends.
* Sometimes what we want is right under our noses. There might be several guys in your life who've you've never been romantically interested in but who might make wonderful boyfriends. If you're looking for someone who's got more depth and dedication than popularity and good looks, reconsider where you're looking and who you're looking at.
* Every time you see him, smile at him and give him a little wave.
* This article is about how to get a boyfriend. Details about how to meet guys, look attractive, garner his interest, etc. can be found in the Related wikiHows below.
* Guys can be slow to notice subtle clues. If he's not taking the hint, flat out ask him out!
* Guys are complicated, some judge your appearance before your personality, make sure you don't get some guy who says he likes you, when really all he wants to do is stare at your body.
* Always let your parents and your family know you have a boyfriend/you and a boy are involved with each other.
* Always be open, truthful sensible and honest, not just yourself and your boyfriend, but also with parents and family as well - Remember honesty, truthfulness openness and sensibility is always the best policy. Remember relationships only work on love, commitment, openness, trust, working things out together and honesty.
* Don't be afraid to open up to your parents and family if you are worried about anything or if thing's are not right - parents and family will look out for you.
* Introduce your boyfriend to your parents. This doesn't have to be a big formal deal, but let them get to know him in a fun, informal setting.
* There's other ways of communicating with each other besides seeing each other face to face. You can talk through email, telephone, text messaging, writing letters to one another, or Instant Messaging.
* If he's being abusive with you, he lies to you/cheats on you/forces you into having sex - dump him, those are NOT the signs of a healthy and loving relationship. Abuse, lying and cheating are never acceptable.
* Only have sex when YOU are ready, a boy who loves you will respect these wishes and ALWAYS take precautions ENSURE he wears a condom EVERY time to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies.
* Always respect each other's wishes and privacy.
* Follow your heart and your instincts.
* Signs of an abusive relationship - Spot the danger signs
- Physical eg. hitting, shoving, burning, kicking, restraining etc.
- Verbal/Emotional eg. shouting/yelling at you, name-calling, hurtful comments, telling you are a waste of space, useless, ridiculing, checking up on you all the time, constant criticizing and put-downs, hurtful teasing
- Sexual eg. forcing you/enticing you to have sex against your will/consent/wishes or any other form of sexual activity against your will/consent/wishes.
* Never talk to a guy every day: he may just think you want to be his friend talk to him once a while then build but also show you have other guy friends.
* Make sure that he is interested in you, and that you two make connections and have chemistry.
* Make sure that he is someone that you would like to be around, get to know him. Never be to fast or pushy take things slow and see where it goes.
WARNINGS !!!
# Do not constantly flirt with the guy you like. Guys act like they like that constant flirting, but often they don't.
# Never do anything you wouldn't feel good with after the fact.
# Choose a boyfriend carefully. You don't want to look back and regret having started something that ended in disaster.
# Looking for a boyfriend just because you feel insecure (i.e. you want to look good with someone by your side, all of your friends have boyfriends, you just like being liked, etc.) is a recipe for broken hearts and wasted time. This could really hurt who becomes your boyfriend.
# Don't be obnoxious and just try to be exactly yourself.
# Make sure you get that part-listener part in there because guys don't like chatterboxes but also make sure you get that part-talker part in too because a conversation DOES involve two people!
# Always make sure you are yourself. Don't change for any guy; he will notice the change.
# Note how he interacts with others, his friends and others alike. You don't want to be stuck with a guy who's nice to certain people but a jerk otherwise.
# Do not flirt, AT ALL, with other guy(s) besides the one you want to be with. Even if the flirting is only joking, if the guy sees it, it could possibly delay him asking you out! It could also make him think you aren't interested anymore and he will give up.
From: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Boyfriend
